As a child who struggles with anxiety, Zeke has inherited my "gift" of abundant tears. Any number of things can bring on the waterworks on any given day, no matter how hard we try to hold them in.
I am getting better at controlling my emotions in my old age, but Zeke is still learning.
When he begins falling a part over little things like Cai looking at him the wrong way, or a missing shoe, or the Lego car that fell resulting in a missing missile, we calmly tell him, "Zeke, those are inappropriate tears".
We're trying to teach him to logically think through the real reason for the hysteria and talk himself off the ledge with reason and perspective.
But did you know that a lot of us live in this realm, and most of us don't even know it!
Sure, you may not cry over every little thing, but you hit the panic button on life, causing you, and everyone around you, to dive into scurry mode.
I'm reading a book called "The Time of Your Life" by Susie Davis. It is an excellent read! (I got it for $.01 on Amazon BTW).
The chapter I read today was titled, "the trap of inappropriate panic". Boy did it hit the mark on women of this generation.
We tend to hit the panic button from everything to straightening up the house for a guest to trying to get out of town for a "fun" family vacation.
Not only are we creating an unpeaceful environment for those around us, but we are "training up a child in the way he should go" and that way is completely inappropriate! For example, if my kids see a stressed out mom all the time, where every little thing is cause for scurry and panic, they will think that it's normal to act that way and most likely fall into those same unhealthy patterns as an adult.
Susie asks us the question, "Do you leave your hurrying and scurrying for real emergencies or do you live in the hysterics of a tornado lifestyle, driven on by a skewed perspective."
If we live life in panic mode, and then wonder why we are stressed out all the time, we could probably use a hefty dose of perspective...and maybe we could ask someone to remind us that "that is inappropriate panic" to help talk us off the ledge:-)